Green Lights + Red Flags of Finding Queer Friendly Wedding Vendors

First off…Happy Pride Month 🌈

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So as I’m sure you already know it can be challenging navigating the wedding industry looking for LGBTQ+ affirming companies. Companies who TRULY celebrate your love + aren’t just doing it for money or to not be “cancelled” in the most hush hush way possible. What many heterosexual couples don’t understand is that those in LGBTQ+ presenting relationships essentially have to come out to all their vendors unless it is obvious that they are inclusive. This coming out on repeat to total strangers can not only be incredibly nerve-racking but heartbreaking at times.


Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t have to worry? Well while I wish I could wave a magic wand + strongly encourage everyone to choose vendors who leave no questions in your mind I understand its a can be a process. So here’s 5 🚩 & 5 ✅ 5 to help discern. Fingers crossed it will make life a little easier.

✅ It’s easy to find your self visually celebrate across their website + social media. There’s ample examples of queer couples across all platforms. And it’s not just 1 letter of LGBTQ+.

🚩 Good luck finding any LGBTQ+ representation anywhere. If it’s there it’s buried + only pops out in June. It not loud or proud.

✅ The language is inclusive, gender neutral + not defaulting to a “hetero normative” scenario. Pronouns matter + they include the trans community. The wedding industry is unnecessarily littered with gendered language so if they’re making the point to defy that regardless of damage to SEO, etc then you know they are actually in it with you!

🚩The language is “bride” + “groom” as the standard. Cishet is the “norm”. While they may be “happy” to modify for you they are saying your scenario is not the default.

✅They support LGBTQ+ affirming + owned business. They work with vendors who are also affirming. They do NOT work with homophobic,transphobic or problematic vendors. Their money + referrals are keeping the queer community safe + celebrated.

🚩They work with vendors who are questionable or directly not affirming. They support business that don’t support the LGBTQ+ community. It goes bad to at the adage of when parents would worry about a possible friend because of who they hung out with… they’re not wrong in this grown up version of that concern.

✅They directly say they’re LGBTQ+ inclusive. It’s not hidden, coy or confusing. It’s loud + proud.

🚩They’re vague at best or don’t say anything. Their statements are left up to interpertation most likely with the excuse of where they live or people they know. Either way if this is quietly closeted their interaction with you won’t be any different.

✅They are a vocal advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. Beyond weddings they genuinely care about the community. You might see them at events, marches, parades, signing petition etc.

🚩They remain quiet + complacent because it doesn’t directly impact them.. They support people, groups, or organization who are actively working against LGBTQ+ rights.

Bonus Tip:

✅ LGBTQ+ love isn’t seasonal. They celebrate LGBTQ+ couple all year long . It doesn’t matter the month or what’s trending expect to see inclusive love and rainbows any time of the year.

🚩They either do not celebrate pride, are deeply offended by pride ( “claiming back the rainbow” anyone) or do a “mandatory” post on June 1. Check back that their other 11 months look like.

Happy pride y’all! I hope this makes your wedding research a little easier. 🏳️‍🌈